Don’t Miss Your Life
We all have times in our life when we feel stuck. Stuck in a job, a town, a state, a house or even a climate that doesn’t seem to resonate with our spirit; a set of circumstances that seem to beyond our control that work against our creative energy. We may be stuck in a relationship, a lifestyle, or mired in habits and addictions we can’t seem to break. As we age, we may find that the future has become a less appealing place in which to dwell, so we begin to dwell in the past. We become obsessed with trying to unravel all of the hurts and disappointments we have experienced and to make sense of them. We try to “understand” ourselves, believing it will free us from our unhappiness.
Living in any place of “stuck-ness” can foster an underlying, and often unrelenting sense of frustration, anger, despair, or hopelessness. We can’t seem to see our way out; we can’t find our way through; we can’t even see what’s right in front of us.
Breaking out of a pattern of “stuck-ness” requires letting go; letting go of the goal, the dream, the elusive solution to your problem; ultimately letting go of the belief that obtaining whatever it is you are obsessed with, is the only avenue to happiness and peace of mind. In reality, these things are a means of escaping, avoiding, or eluding what is right in front of you. You cannot become unstuck by focusing on something outside of yourself, because the stuck-ness lives within you.
Begin to break free by choosing to set your obsession on an imaginary shelf. Stop yourself from thinking about it; take a vacation from it. Select a period of time, a day, a week, a month, to give up working on this problem. Then take a deep, long breath and breathe in the fresh air of freedom and enjoy the space you now have in your body, mind and spirit.
Once an hour, or once a day think about, or write down, one thing you are grateful for. Make it a practice, a routine. If the obsession starts to rear its ugly head, replace it with a thought of something you appreciate in the here and now. Turn your attention to what is right in front of you. Listen. What do you hear? Breathe in. What do you smell? Relax your eyes and let your gaze fall where it will. What do you see? Focus on the smallest area you can and describe it to yourself. Experience it.
Letting go does not mean giving up. It does not mean abandoning your dreams. Letting go offers a way to gain perspective and to participate in a bigger reality. It opens up space in your psyche and your soul for new and different solutions, for thoughts, ideas and opportunities that were locked away from view. When we fight and struggle with reality we work against ourselves. We become so invested in the outcome we miss the more important things in life. Don’t miss your life.
© Dorothy Sander 2013