Taking Back Your Life, One Step at a Time
If there is one thing women do in overwhelming numbers it’s that they give away more than they have to give, and most have plenty to give. Women are blessed with the innate ability not only to see what people need, but through the depth of their compassion and caring, they are compelled to act, even when they are exhausted and overwhelmed. My guess is, you know what I’m talking about.
This is the very reason they make excellent mothers, caring wives and compassionate caregivers; and why they are loyal, committed and hardworking employees. They are the first in line at fund-raisers and charitable events, and to help out a neighbor in trouble. It is also why they are the first in line at the doctor’s office with mysterious and not-so-mysterious illnesses; with burn out, compassion fatigue, adrenal fatigue, depression, weight loss or gain, migraines and worse. I know, I was in that line more often than I care to admit.
The truth is, that as much as we excel in helping others, we fail in taking care of the one person that matters most, ourselves. If you are on this path of self-destruction, let me caution you to stop now before it gets worse, because if you don’t, it will. One of our many talents it also the ability to deny our needs, and bury them so far underground we forget that we have them. It’s time to bring them out, dust them off and let them see the light of day. It is not only the healthy thing to do, it is a requirement of sane, peaceful, wise living, to value and care for ourselves so that we might have the resources we need to continue to shower our love on others.
Each morning, as soon as you wake up and can focus, take the journal and pen you keep beside your bed and write one sentence beginning with “I need…..”. That’s it. It doesn’t matter what it is or whether or not you take any steps to acquire it. Just write it down, take one slow deep breath and go on with your day. Guaranteed this one sentence will be with you in some way throughout your day and show you something you need to pay attention to.
I like to do this exercise first thing in the morning before I’m completely awake. If I wait too long, my lizard brain wakes up and starts tossing up obstacles and reasons to avoid, deny or evade anything I might think I need or want. This may not be the case for you. The important thing is that you take the five minutes required to do this practice every day.
Leave a comment or drop me an email (AgingAbundantly@gmail.com) and let me know how this practice works for you, or if it doesn’t!