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January 15, 2014

Northern Light in Lapland

Northern Light in Lapland ~ The world is an amazing place! Full of mystery and unexpected gifts.

Life rarely goes according to plans. My plans that is. Again, and again, I am reminded of this.

My husband and I have been in a financial fix for about six weeks. We’ve had our ups and downs over the years. Opting to work as self-employed business owners, we did a whole lot of learning through our mistakes. Adding to the mix, our home improvement business is the kind of business that takes a nose dive every time the economy hiccups. And, it’s been doing a whole lot of hiccupping in the last decade!

I can’t tell you the number of times we walked around scratching our heads wondering why the business phone wasn’t ringing, asking ourselves over and over, “What are we doing wrong? What do we need to do differently?” Perplexed and frantic, we inevitably discovered that economic indicators were down. We’d hunker down, cut back on our expenses and ride it out. We actually became so confident in the consistent inconsistency of our business that we became great predictors for our friends and relatives (not that predicting bad news was anything any of them wanted to hear!).

The most recent downturn was not altogether unexpected. The holiday season is always slow. But this year, the cold weather seemed to freeze people’s dialing finger. In addition, a re-fi from hell tied up our money and our nerves; the legal machinations relative to my accident kicked into high gear; my youngest son, who worked with my husband for the last five years, moved to Missouri; and my oldest son, who also worked with us, will be joining him the first of February.  Do I need to say “chaos” with a capital “C”?  In the midst of all of this I’m trying to finish up my book and get some freelance writing work done. (Not easy when everyone else is at loose ends!)

The other day, in a particularly low moment, hubby and I sat eating P&J sandwiches at the kitchen table, trying to figure out what the hell we were going to do to survive. After all, we’re not getting any younger, and every time this happens gets harder and harder to find the energy for a comeback.  It’s so hard not to feel defeated when the deck seems stacked against you.

I suggested we go somewhere quiet, hold hands and meditate. I would bring a notebook (do I go anywhere without one?) and jot down any ideas that came to us as we did. I wish you knew my husband. You’d be as surprised, and as proud as I was, when he agreed. He’s come a long way baby!

So we washed down our lunch with coffee, went to our bedroom and sat side by side on the bed, comfortably propped up by pillows. Holding hands, we each took several slow, deep breaths. Slowly, we began to let go of our worrisome thoughts and let in the quiet; to relinquish control and allow the energy needed for that to expanded our awareness and move outward.  In this way we opened ourselves to the best of our ability, to anything…to possibility…to the universe. We spoke our thoughts when they seemed important. I jotted them down. A few of them seemed interesting, but not immediate solutions. So we continued on.

At last when the quiet meditation seemed to run its course, and there were no brilliant ideas forthcoming, hubby said, “Maybe we just need to do nothing.”  Counter-intuitive to our do-do-do mindset, it felt like a cool breeze on a hot summer’s day. Yes. That was our answer today. We both just relaxed, heaved a sigh of relief and went about the rest of our day with a calm, trusting attitude that we had not had in weeks.

The next day, we both received new and fresh ideas for our future, new business came in for both of us, and there was movement on both the re-fi and the legal stuff.  Unexpected solutions to long-term problems seemed to just appear. My instinct was not to trust any of it.

Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. If I’m going to believe the stuff I always write and talk about, and I do, I had darn well better believe it when it hits me upside the head. I am passionate about the concept of positive energy, of hope and faith and the benevolence of the universe. I am doubtless that what we see and believe with clarity will come to be in some way. I believe it without question, that is, for everyone else.  But, for me? Not so much. I’m on a learning curve. I am learning to trust that what I believe to be true for everyone else, is also true for me. So I remind myself now, on a regular basis, to keep an open and trusting heart, and to accept what comes my way with gratitude.

Dorothy Sander © 2014


19 Comments leave one →
  1. January 15, 2014 2:41 pm

    Dorothy – For years my husband and I had commercial property in historic downtown Crystal Lake where I had my brick-and-mortar practice, HolEssence. From mid-Dec to New Year’s Eve each year we’d ask ourselves, “What do we need to add to make HolEssence even better?”

    One year we decided to instead ask, “What do we need to eliminate to make HolEssence even better?” It came to us that selling that property and me moving my business from in-person/face-to-face to online via FaceTime or Skype was in keeping with the technological times. And you know what? We were right!

    Now I have online client sessions with (English speaking) women from all over the globe, and we don’t have the unbelievable overhead that we used to have.

    You’re right — sometimes we’ve got to get out of the same-old, same-old, and shake things up a bit!

    • January 15, 2014 3:31 pm

      I did that for myself a few years back when I left the business in my husband’s trusty hands and focused my energy of my writing. Not a lucrative switch! He desperately needs to do something similar, but we don’t have the finances to support a change easily. But, we’re “trying” to have faith that everything will work out exactly as it should.

  2. January 15, 2014 2:49 pm

    Sometimes believing that “everything happens for a reason” is THE most difficult thing to do, but in hindsight, miracles really are all around us just waiting to happen . . . if we let them. I hope your better fortune continues, and here’s to the day when you can expect it instead of questioning it.

    You may not hear this as often as you should, Dorothy, but you bring a great deal of peace and wisdom into the lives of your readers. Thank you for always sharing so much of yourself.

    • January 15, 2014 3:43 pm

      Thank you, Candace. I appreciate your words. I don’t get many comments so it’s hard to know if and how what I say resonates, but it feels like what I’m supposed to do, so I just keep at it! 🙂

  3. January 15, 2014 6:56 pm

    Trusting is difficult because it so often means letting go and doing nothing. It means pausing and simply allowing the universe to do what we can’t seem to do ourselves. I hope things continue to roll along more smoothly for you and that your wildest dreams come true. Just breathe.

  4. January 16, 2014 7:10 am

    Success is so relative. I think you and your husband had great success is relaxing and letting go. Something that I also teach and yet in or high energy, high activity American economy sometimes that’s the hardest to do. Congratulations and blessings on the journey.

  5. January 16, 2014 7:40 am

    You wonder if and when your words resonate?????? When I get a new post email I have to check in with myself to see if I’m in a place where I can take in your thoughts, Dorothy. They always resonate, and I want to be in a place where I can Be with them, allow them to sink in, allow them to be the synchronicity I need for that moment in time. As in today. My well is low; when I come to Whatever’s Out There That Is Sacred and ask to be held, and am given gifts of time, solitude and resonating words, I am surprised. Grateful, but usually surprised. Duh. Blessings on your life………..

    • January 16, 2014 11:46 am

      Wow, thank you for this, Kathy. My husband tells me this, and I’ve tried to take it in. I’m still learning that it’s okay to be me and that everyone doesn’t live in my head! 🙂

  6. Terry permalink
    January 16, 2014 12:41 pm

    Keep at it, Dorothy, as you said. We’re with you. Blessings to you!

  7. Mary Stevens permalink
    January 16, 2014 7:44 pm

    I ALWAYS read – and love – your writings Dorothy. They resonate with me in very deep and significant ways.

  8. January 18, 2014 2:56 pm

    Dorothy, I enjoy your candor. Many couples freeze up when there is financial tension, but you two bonded to face the situation together. That is admirable. My husband has been self-employed as a performance artist in public schools since the mid-1980s, so it’s been feast or famine on his side of the ledger. Yet he is successful doing what he loves for the Lord.

    Two things stand out, one from your post, and the other from Laurie: “Maybe we just need to do nothing” until we know exactly what to do next, and then perhaps as Laurie says, change or eliminate the non-essential. In the meantime, I am going to recommend you on Facebook.

  9. January 18, 2014 4:55 pm

    Sounds like you’re in the middle of trying times with your work. My husband and I had a business for 27 years. I know how difficult it can be. Best to you and I’m glad you realize the good of life is for you, too.

  10. Janet Hebert permalink
    January 20, 2014 10:17 am

    Dorothy, I look for your words of wisdom and encouragement and just wanted to let you know that your words are helpful to me, that’s for sure! You are a source of light and hope for me and all of us who read you, you’re not alone in this journey and I think of you often.

  11. January 20, 2014 10:46 pm

    Lovely post! I am very much like you in that regard. When things are grim and chaotic I often go off to meditate with the universe and try and put things in perspective. I am the one always preaching to friends to have faith and telling them they must think positive lest they let their dark thoughts be sent to the universe, we get what we focus on. But sometimes when it comes to myself, I too have those moments where I can’t somehow cross that bridge of believing. I think it’s natural for all of us to have our moments of doubt but if we remain true to our beliefs, something good will always prevail!

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