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Developing Resiliency

April 12, 2014

Originally posted on Manifest Me 2014:

Portland Maine

The Waves Came Crashing Full by Charlie Widdis

It’s hard to believe it’s been a week since I last wrote here. Time flies when you’re feeling good, and I’m feeling great! I didn’t think I could ever feel “young” again.  I not only feel younger than a did four weeks ago,  I feel better than I ever have in a body/mind/spirit. It’s been a hard-fought battle and I don’t pretend that there won’t be ups and downs, although wouldn’t it be great if there weren’t?

When we feel great, we always want to feel great. When we feel lousy, we think we’ll never feel good again. I continue to work on accepting the ebb and flow of life, in all its dimensions; to join forces with the rhythm of my body, my mind and my spirit as I live out my life; to pay attention to the signals each is sending me and to do what…

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Unfinished Business

April 7, 2014

Unfinished BusinessYears ago there was a popular book on the market called Unfinished Business, Pressure Points in the Lives of Women by Maggie Scarf. You may have read it. The year was 1980. I was in my late twenties and my life was falling apart every which way but Sunday. As fate would have it, I stumbled across a review of Scarf’s book in The New York Times. As soon as I finished reading it, I went straight to the book store and bought a copy. After I read it from cover to cover I went back to the book store and bought two more copies. I mailed one to the therapist I had recently abandoned after two fruitless years and spending money I didn’t have, and another to my spiritual advisor, who in a moment of desperation I had sought guidance. My instincts were right. The results not so much. In all the hours I spent with these two people, neither one once mentioned the word “depression”. Both were highly credentialed and well-respected in their fields. Both were men, and a product of the times.

The books were acknowledged but I did not receive any insightful comments by return mail; no, “wow, I never thought of that”; or, I will use this information with future clients. The important thing was that my copy was read, and it had a lasting impact on my life. I plan to read it again just to see how far the thinking on mental health and depression has come since then, but the key concept of “unfinished business” is as relevant today as it was then, particularly at midlife.

Regardless of whether or not you suffer from depression or any other emotional problem, most of us don’t make it to our forties, fifties or sixties without some unfinished business, some hurt that won’t heal, some behavior pattern that keeps recurring in our lives. I have come to believe that it is precisely in these areas, in the places of our woundedness, that we will find not only our core selves, but the potent gifts and valuable treasures, we will find there. When we turn toward our pain, rather than away from it, we find exactly what we need, not only to survive midlife and the aging process, but to be transformed by it.

In my blog Manifest Me 2014, I have been talking about some of the things I have learned in recent years along my own healing path. If you are interested in the body, mind, spirit connection, I hope you will join me there. We each have our own unique collection of stumbling blocks to wholeness and inner peace, but I believe the basic elements and disciplines to moving forward along this path are the same for all of us. It’s not always an easy journey. I would be lying if I said otherwise, but it is real and meaningful beyond my wildest imaginings.

Dorothy Sander ©2014

Along the Path of Healing

April 5, 2014

Dorothy Sander:

Midlife often sets in motion a period of time of change and upheaval. While we’re going through it we often think our world is falling apart, but really, it is just falling in place for the first time. Big changes as we age, require big healing and big understanding…of those things that have held us back and kept us from living fully. Every step through life is an opportunity to learn and grow and become more truly ourselves. Embrace life in all its time periods and forms and you will have abundance.

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I’m settling into life with my new food choices. As time goes on, what I eat has become less and less a part of my waking thoughts, and more just something I do at certain times of day. I have not allowed myself to “cheat” because it is in those gray areas that I know I can become quickly sidetracked and lost. If I give myself an inch, I will take a mile, or at least I fear that I will. Until I can put this fear to rest, and trust my inner knowing a wee bit more, it is just easier to keep myself safe. Self-care is a requirement for change.  I also find great comfort in having Crystal at my side, because I know she believes in me when I don’t believe in myself. …

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Holistic Detoxification Process w/ Crystal Honeycutt

March 31, 2014

Dorothy Sander:

If you’ve been following along with me on my wellness journey on, I’ve just posted a video blog from my friend and guide Crystal Honeycutt that explains a bit about the process of holistic detoxification.

Originally posted on Manifest Me 2014:

Last week I asked Crystal if she would be willing to write a few words aboutthe detox and wellness programI’m following from her viewpoint as an expert. She went above and beyond and created this great video. I know you’ll enjoy it! If you have any questions, feel free to leave them in a comment and one of us will try to answer them.

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Who is watching the watchers?

March 23, 2014

Dorothy Sander:

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

Originally posted on Aging Introvert:

When I walked out of my house this morning, I saw the hummingbird fluttering above me. I don’t know if it’s always the same hummingbird, but I see him/her often and it brings a smile. For the last few years, I have been walking everyday, but since cutting my home Internet connection, I find myself merging more and more into my community. Everyday, I either spend time at two local, bustling coffeeshops or I go to the library. No matter where I live, I always go out and wander around.

A few weeks ago, I noticed a small red car parked on my street that was filled to capacity with stuff. I assumed it belonged to one of the homeless men who have moved into the neighborhood. They move their cars and RV’s around to avoid getting ticketed. On one of my walks, I saw the owner of this car…

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